Levi's recent accomplishments

Levi sewed this bag all by himself! I was patching some holes in the knees of his pants, and he wanted to try out sewing for himself. I showed him how to thread a needle, knot the thread, and that he needed to have all the sewing on the inside of the bag to make it look better. I also showed him how to sew on a button. Months later, he also repaired his favorite stuffed animal with no supervision from me. All I did was thread the needle and tie the knot; he did the rest himself!

Levi has also been honing his cooking skills! He cooks Pasta Sides (like Hamburger helper) all by himself! He regularly asks to be allowed to cook. He and Cecil love it. He also has made macaroni and cheese.

I am so proud of Levi for learning these important life skills. I look forward to teaching him many more!

Mother's day 2019

We had a nice quiet Mother's Day here. Lincoln was sick, sick, sick, so after church (Austin stayed home with Lincoln) we just lazed around and spent time together. I took some pictures with the kids, Levi gave me a card, Austin made the meals and also cleaned the kitchen, Cecil gave me a hug and said, "Happy Mother's Day!" and Lincoln gave me the best snuggles all day long (too bad it was because he's sick!).

We had some really nice family time on the couch. Levi has recently finished reading the first Harry Potter book (!!) and watched the movie, so he made a wand for himself and was casting spells on all of us. We took turns being petrified and levitated. Austin joined in and was pretty successful at sabotaging Levi's spells by either blocking them with his hands or saying words almost the same as the ones for the spell, but not quite. When Levi and Cecil working together were finally able to keep him from using his hands to block the spells at the same time Levi was able to say the petrification spell without being messed up, Austin fell down and the boys laughed with joy, and Lincoln even cracked a smile and let out a tiny laugh despite feeling so bad.

Cecil got out our baby doll and Austin had him hold it like a new baby. Cecil was very gentle and careful; it was so cute! Then he wrapped the baby in a blanket and carried it around for a while, placing it on the couch and re-wrapping it at intervals. At one point, he asked for a diaper, which I coached him on putting on the doll but he mostly did it himself. I told him that he was getting good practice in for one day when he's a daddy, and that seemed to make him feel extra special. 

I also mentioned that when the new baby is born, Cecil won't be big enough to change his diaper, but Levi probably could! Levi seemed pretty taken with that idea and wanted to get some practice in immediately, and changed Lincoln's diaper! He even thought to give Lincoln a toy to hold without me saying anything. I was pretty impressed! I don't think Lincoln will cooperate so well in the future, but this time he seemed so taken with the novelty of Levi changing his diaper that he just watched and listened in fascination.

Cecil was pretending the hat was Cappy from Mario Odyssey. That means you can control
whoever's wearing it, even if it's a bad guy!

Poor sick Lincoln showing the camera his nose (I'm not sure why...)

Levi wanted a silly picture! He did smile normally for later pictures, but for some reason my camera had stopped working, so you don't get to see those!

Intangible gifts I want to give to my children

-healthy eating habits
-love of being fit
-love of outdoors
-social dexterity
-love of reading
-happiness
-high emotional intelligence
-love of self
-love for others
-how to keep a clean living space

And of course, most importantly, a love for Heavenly Father and his son, Jesus Christ.

Summer work for teenagers

As a teenager, I understood the value of work and getting some working experience before going out into the world on my own. However, when I was finally old enough to have a summer job, I had a lot of difficulty finding one. I applied to many different places, but no one wanted to hire me. Actually, one fast food restaurant did hire me, but after giving me the baptism of fire working the drive thru (where I was terrible, of course), they never put me on the work schedule again.

Ultimately, I had four different summer jobs through six summers while going to school: babysitting, working as a secretary at the computer repair shop my brother worked at, an internship, and as a painter. The work as a painter and as a babysitter was erratic and unreliable. There were only two summers where I had meaningful employment.

I wanted better employment, but I didn't know how to find it. I've talked to a lot of people my age who've had a difficult time finding a job or figuring out what they want to do for a living.

Obviously, I want  my children to have a better experience than I had. I've pondered on what I can do for them to help them get the exposure they need to find a job, get experience working, and to find a job that they'll enjoy. This is with the knowledge that summer jobs for teenagers are limited, it can be discouraging to keep looking and looking without finding something, and parents shouldn't take the responsibility to find a job for their children.

My plan is that my teenagers will be required to spend 20-30 hours/week (or more, if they want) in the summertime working. If they can't find a job, I will help them find a place to volunteer. Right now I assume that it's pretty easy to find volunteer work. They can volunteer at a pet shelter, the hospital, at their school, at a food bank, at the library, or many other places. Not only will volunteer work keep them busy, it will also help them to learn more about the world and society around them. They will also get fulfillment from doing something valuable with their summer hours. However, I will also teach them to self-advocate, so that once they have more skills that they will not settle for volunteer work with no pay but receive some sort of compensation.

I am also hoping to encourage them to shadow people who work in the profession(s) that they are interested in pursuing, and maybe even some that they don't have interest in (yet) to broaden their horizons and help them understand what it may be like to work in that particular profession.

Is there anything that you would add to my plan or concerns that you have about it? Let me know!

Joy

Recently, a friend said something that made me realize that she thinks that I am skilled at being joyful. I had never really thought about it like that before; I had just thought I was a naturally happy person. On further thought, though, I did realize that I do change my actions and thoughts to make my life happier and more joyful.

One thing that comes to mind is from when Levi was a baby. He was a very sad baby--I think he had reflux or something--and cried at the least provocation. He constantly was demanding my attention, and I had little time to do anything that wasn't with him. There was one point where when he napped, it was hardly ever more than 30 minutes at a time.

I was constantly frustrated with not being able to get things done. I was not experiencing very much joy; mostly I was experiencing a screaming child and not being able to do the things I wanted to do.

Finally, I took an honest look at my life. I knew I was frustrated, and I knew why. I finally said to myself, "Self, things are not going to change anytime soon. Self, what do you need to change about your expectations, and what do you need to change about your life to get the things done that you need to?"

My first change was my expectation about what I could get done during a 30-minute nap (not much). When I started expecting things that could realistically happen, I stopped being as frustrated about not being able to do the not-as-doable things that I expected to do before.

Another change was in my style of doing things. Previously, I did everything in big chunks. I set aside some time and "got 'er done!" After honestly looking at the time I had all at once, I knew that wasn't practical. I started teaching myself to do things piece by piece and to multitask. It has been a long process, let me tell you!

I saw immediate results. I didn't get as much done as I had before having a baby (surprise! haha), but I was able to get the things that needed to be done, done. The new way wasn't as efficient as the old way, but I was happier. Constant frustration was gone from my life (periodic frustration remained, of course), and nothing about my circumstances had changed.

Leaving My Comfort Zone: Kitchen Edition

So one of my friends told me that this recipe was her favorite and that I should try it. That and other motivating factors made me break out of my kitchen comfort zone to try it. It is SO GOOD. It was definitely worth learning a few new skills and spending a couple of hours in the kitchen (I'm sure it won't take as much time next time I make it, though).

Oh. Man. I ate two huge servings and I just can't stop thinking about it. Think of Ariel: "I want mooooore!"

So, I'm actually pretty proud of myself for developing new skills and experiences in the kitchen (and a little embarrassed that it's taken me so long to do some of these things). Here are my new things that I done did:

1. Buy, peel, and chop up ginger. I really enjoyed mincing it because it smelled so good the whole time!
2. Zest an orange. I was so ignorant about this that I actually looked for orange zest at the grocery store. However, I've got to say that the orange zest made a huge difference in the way the meal tasted, and I got to eat a delicious orange to boot!
3. Use corn starch in my cooking. I really appreciated how quickly the sauce thickened up!

I followed the recipe exactly. I have had too many mess-ups and flops because of putting substitutes in recipes when I didn't have the exact ingredients. I would, however, change one thing--the sauce was a little too sweet. Next time I make this, I'll try it with only 3/4 C brown sugar (instead of the 1 C it calls for)

I also made some marinades (with chicken) for some easy freezer meals down the road. I'm looking forward to how they turn out. I used this one (I used a 1/4 recipe), three from this site, and then a barbecue marinade that I made up on my own. I haven't really done marinades before, either, so I'm looking forward to how they turn out.

Creative Family History

I hear a lot of people talk about how they can't work on family history because everything's already been done.

I find that doubtful.

While I completely understand not knowing how to get started on family history, there is usually something you can do to better understand your family history.

Malachi's promise states that the Lord "will turn the heart of the children to their fathers." It also states that He will "turn the heart of the fathers to the children." I feel that this can mean a great number of things, not just making sure their temple work is done. If your heart has turned to your fathers, these are some things that you may do:

1. Learn their names. 
2. Learn about where they lived and what they did for work.
3. Find out what they looked like
4. Learn about their children, brothers and sisters
5. Help them receive essential saving temple ordinances
6. Make your own life story accessible to future generations. This applies even if you don't have children.

There are several ways you can accomplish these things.

1. Find records that document information about them and their lives
2. Ask family members for pictures
3. Print out pictures that you have and display them in your home, whether in frames or in a photo album (I think a photo book would be a really classy way to do this)
4. Talk to your living "fathers" about their lives and the lives of their family members. I will include questions that may be appropriate to ask them below.
5. Go through old pictures with family members and label them with the correct names.
6. Keep a journal or record your own story by recording it or writing it down - can be in segments or all together.
7. Take and save pictures of yourself at various points in your life.

So, unless you are familiar with your ancestor's names, have gathered all family photos, found all documents about your ancestors before 1850, have all of your parents' and grandparents' stories, labeled all family pictures, and recorded your own personal history, I have good news for you! there are still things you can do to contribute to family history work that are pretty easy to do.

_______________________________________________________________

Prompts suitable for interviewing older generations (and be sure to encourage story telling and tangents as you get this information):

• Describe your mother (father, grandparents)
• What did you admire the most about your mother (father, grandfather, grandmother)?
• What did you dislike the most about your mother (father, grandfather, grandmother)?
•  What was the physical appearance of your mother (father, grandfather, grandmother)? Eye/hair color, tall/short, etc.
• Describe a typical Sunday.
• Describe a typical work day
• Describe a perfect summer day
• Describe a typical school day
• Who was your favorite aunt/uncle? Why?
• Did you hitchhike?
• Describe a trip you went on with family (visiting family, moving, etc)
• How did you meet your spouse?
• Describe your siblings.
• What did your father/mother do for work?
• What was your favorite thing to eat?
• What were your parents' views on faith and worship?
• Why do you belong to your current faith system? Why did you change from your parents' (if the person you're interviewing converted to another faith)?
• Did your family have a garden? What was your favorite thing about it?
• What kinds of things did you do together as a family? Did you play games, talk, cook?
• How did your family dress? What kind of clothes did people wear back then?
• What was your parents' opinion on college? 
• Did you ever meet someone famous or semi-famous?
• What did your family do for Christmas? Easter? 4th of July? Thanksgiving? Other holidays?
• How are you like your mother? your father?
• Was there any special thing that you did just with your father/mother?
• Did you do anything special together as a family?
• How were the children expected to help with the farm and other work?
• What was the chore you liked to do best?
• Were there hired hands on the farm? Sharecroppers?
• Describe the places that you lived and why you moved (if you moved)
• What was your favorite thing to do with each of your siblings?
• What did you do with your pets if you had any?
• Describe what it was like to go to the movies.
• What was your favorite thing to do?
• Did you or your family gather wild food (nuts, berries, grapes)?
• What was your first job?
• List the jobs you've had throughout your life
• Describe your relationships with your various neighbors
• What is your favorite invention from your lifetime?
• What event during your lifetime had the greatest impact on the world/your country? Why?
• Where did you go to school? (grade school, high school, college)
• Did you play sports?
• Who were your closest childhood friends? What did you do together?

Positive thoughts on a messy home

The other day as I finally started washing my dirty pots and pans, I thought about how nice it would be if I were better at staying on top of the dishes; it would be so nice if there were one or two--or fewer--dishes in the sink at a time.

Then I thought, "But wait--what am I doing with my time instead?"

Here are some things that I'm doing with my time instead of folding the laundry, washing the dishes, or cleaning the clutter off of the floor:

-take care of my children
-play with my children
-relax and recharge my emotional stamina for my day-to-day responsibilities
-spend time with my husband
-read for pleasure
-read for instruction
-socialize
-family history research
-make food for my family
-practice the piano for my church calling
-write about my experiences and thoughts on my blog

It's a pretty good list, and I'm sure there are more things on there that I didn't think of. I'm not certain how much less time I'd have to spend on those things if I kept my house company-ready at all times, but I know it would be significantly less, especially with the lovable chaotic force of a three-year-old in my home. Also, isn't it more efficient to get everything done at once?

Don't get me wrong--if the house is too bad, then it has an effect on me. Because of that, I'm kind of a minimalist when it comes to having "things." That way, there aren't as many things in my house to mess it up and there aren't as many things to clean up when that time comes.

Anyway, I think it's overall better to have a little bit of clutter, clothes in the dryer for days at a time, and partially unpacked boxes sitting around than to feel guilty about doing things that enrich your life.

So this weekend--don't clean your house! Go have an adventure instead. Give yourself one more hour of me- or family-time and take care of the cleaning later.

I did something Pinterest-worthy!

Usually cutesy crafts and Pinterest things aren't really my forte. However, I think this little project turned out really well!

My entryway closet had been a jumble of shoes, and it was bugging me a LOT. The mess was the main thing bothering me, but it was also annoying to have to hunt for shoes when we needed them. I wanted something in the closet to help organize the shoes, but didn't want to have to look for (or spend the money on) a shoe organizer.

Enter the myriad of diaper boxes we've accumulated over the last two years or so. We've used them in all of our moves, and since we're planning on moving again in the near future (in less than a year, to a house - no solid plans yet), we've saved all of the boxes that are in good condition. They're so ubiquitous that one of my sisters teases me about them on a fairly regular basis.

Anyway, I have a lot of diaper boxes.

Boxes can be used for a lot of things. They're very useful! So far, we've used them for organizing without really trying to make them look nice, but this time I wanted something that would look good in our closet, especially since the front closet is so public.

I decided that some small shelves made out of a couple of the diaper boxes would fill the bill for organizing the closet. Cover those with some tasteful contact paper, and it should look pretty good, right? The next time I went shopping, I purchased some contact paper with a cute pattern, and got to work the next day.

First I found two boxes that were the same size.:

Next, I lined them with contact paper:

Levi actually took this and the next picture. He did a good job!

Voila!

The finished product!

Beginner's crochet headband for infants

Guys. I had NO idea headbands were so easy to make! Even a beginner can whip this one up in an hour or less (I think for me it's about 30 minutes), and it hardly takes up any yarn at all. Awesome, right?? So since I came up with the pattern myself, I thought I'd write it down and share it with you all. Here goes!

Materials:
-2 different colors of yarn, worsted weight (that's the kind that you usually think of when you think of yarn. It'll say on the package, though, if you're worried.)
-Size K hook (You could probably do it all with size H, but I'll explain in a minute why I included two sizes)
-Size H hook
-Scissors

Band:
In color 1 using size K hook, chain 50, turn, skip one, single crochet to end. You're done!
*note: I estimate that this combination will make the band to fit most babies 4 months and younger. If you use a size H hook, I recommend making the band a bit longer, since your stitches will be smaller. If you want this to fit a larger head, just add more stitches.

Flower:
Change color to color 2 and use size H hook. Chain 15. Turn, skip one, single crochet (sc) to end, chain one, turn, stitch 2 sc in each stitch to the end. Switch colors to color 1; slip stitch in each stitch until the end; tie off, leaving a long end to use in sewing up flower (it's nice to have a long tail of both colors, so when you cut the other color, try to leave several inches for sewing).
Curl up into swirly flower; sew the flower in place so it stays where you want it.

Finishing touches:
Sew button on to one end of band. Crochet is nice and hole-y so you don't need to worry about button holes. This makes the headband nice and adjustable, which is great for babies! Sew the flower on to desired position on band, and voila! You're done. I added some fabric glue to the flower to help along my debatable sewing skills.

Look what I did!!!

I finally finished it!

It took soooooo long, but I finally finished it, border and all :) I love that it's a wave and not the sharper zig-zag pattern.

I just had to share. Now on to smaller projects that I'll be able to finish in a few days, instead of years (because I get tired of them in the middle and take year (or more) long breaks). No more blankets for me! Unless of course it's a baby blanket; then I might consider it.

Quick and Easy Fried Rice

It has been requested that I include a recipe for fried rice on this blog. I didn't know anyone besides myself even cared about the recipes I put on here, so I'm pretty happy to know that at least one person has an interest in my cooking ideas!

So, fried rice. I learned how to make it from one of my past roommates who is half Korean. She always said she wasn't much of a cook, but I thought she was great!

Before I learned how to make fried rice, I had this kind of nebulous idea that fried rice was made when you toasted the uncooked rice in oil before adding the water. I was wrong.


Ingredients:
1.5 C cooked rice
1-2 T cooking oil
1 T Asian salad dressing (I like Newman's Own Sesame Ginger dressing, but any brand is fine.)
1 C frozen French-cut green beans or other quick-cooking vegetable(s). Sometimes I use leftover veggies.
1-2 eggs (optional: replace with another protein such as chopped ham)
salt and pepper to taste

I've never measured any of my ingredients while cooking this dish, so keep this in mind when you make it yourself.

I choose a pan depending on how much I want to make. I usually use a small-to medium-sized frying pan to cook enough for Levi and me. Cover the bottom of the pan with about 3/4" of rice (I like to use leftover rice since it cuts down on the prep time). It's ok if the rice is deeper in the pan; it'll be a little bit awkward to cook, but it'll still taste the same.

Place the rice and oil in the pan; heat at medium high heat until rice is warm. Add green beans and salad dressing. If it looks like you don't have enough vegetables, add some more. You should also be able to see oil droplets on your pan. If you don't see them, add at least 1 teaspoon additional oil.

When beans are heated through but not completely cooked, *clear a space in the middle of the pan to scramble the eggs in. The rice and green bean mixture should be pushed up along the sides, leaving the middle clear. Scramble the eggs in this cleared-out space. Add salt and pepper to taste on eggs and rice mixture on the sides. When eggs are fully cooked, chop them up and mix them in with the rice mixture. At this point, the dish is finished. If you want an additional Asian flair, leave the food in the pan for about a minute while turning the heat up to the highest setting. Be sure not to let it burn. This gives the rice that's in direct contact with the pan a bit of a crunch, and is considered the best part of a rice dish in many Asian cultures. I also enjoy it :)

Cook time for me is about 10 minutes. I think.


*if you don't want to use eggs in the dish, you can use chopped ham, chicken, or other pre-cooked meat in place of the eggs. I haven't tried it with tofu, but that might be good, too. If you replace the eggs with a pre-cooked meat, you don't need to cook them in the middle of the pan because they're already cooked. Just mix in the meat you've chosen with the rest of the rice until it's heated through and the vegetables are cooked to desired done-ness.

High Five!

One of the best social skills that I've taught Levi is how to give a high five. 

There have been so many situations where people have asked him for a five and Levi was able to delight them with his compliance to the request. I even wrote a post that illustrates one small way Levi's skill has helped him to bond with others around him.

I've seen people who don't really know what to do when they first meet a toddler ask for a five. Since Levi knew what "Gimme a five" meant, he was able to make those people love him more.

I like it when people love my child. Therefore, high fives are important.